Random thoughts and Rants

I dont belong to any sort of celebrity caste, this is one thing I want to make clear before anybody reading, continues. But whatever the title suggests is definitely true.

The recent Shiney Ahuja maid rape case is one of the proofs. Had it been a not so famous man or any cop in specific.. it might have taken the maid years to bring her case to the front. The media might be very active today... trying to bring all sorts of rape and molestation happening in the metros to the front but only metros. Few days back, a lady was gangraped by the cops of some state inside a police station, in daylight in night, but it took her more than 8 months to lodge a complain against them, leave alone the justice.

I definitely am not one of the eyewitnesses of shiney ahuja case, nor am a die hard fan of shiney ahuja but the fact still remains the fact that people keep looking for opportunity to bring themselves into limelight by looping in the celebrities.

If Mallika Sherawat wears skimpy clothes, how cud it heart the sentiments of a
lawyer sitting in Madhya Pradesh?

It has happened before and is still happening. Nobody has forgotten the Salman khan black buck poaching case yet, and nobody knows how many other animals or fr that matter, bucks had already been killed before the case happened. But only because it was a celebrity, it gathered so much of media attention.

Let's talk everyday life i.e hit and run cases (aren't they a part of everyday life?). I tell you, it happens very often in gem cities of India but nobody cares, but ya , if a celbrity hits and run it would defntly make a news.

A crime is a crime. No second thoughts to that, but then why do we discriminate while making justice? Let Shiney ahuja be sent to jail for life or wtever the court says, if he has raped the maid, but send those first who have ever raped a woman or commited any sort of crime. Let all the crime and criminals have equal oppportunity to go thru justice, after all they too are the citizens of India, dnt they deserve equality?

Racial abuse against Indians in Australia, might get a place in the list of saddest events ever and I know every Indian wud like this to happen.

But I never felt surprised or something when I read about this. Did u? Aren't we already very familiar with such events, noted practitioners of regionalism and racialism? Then why is this fuss there even in existence.

We shud silently tolerate all this without making a pinch of sound. Actually we have to tolerate, because we dnt have right to make any noise about it.

Who are we? Let me tell this in clear words.
We are the nation where people are killed because they belong to one caste or other.
We are the nation where people from one state are beaten and thrown away from other state.
We are the nation where people are burnt alive, not because they belong to a different caste, but they belong to a different sub-caste.
We are the nation, where speaking your mother tongue is considered as crime in few states.
We are the nation where foreign nationals are raped, because people are not habituated to bikini yet.

And surprising enuf, we react angry when we face racial abuse. We as a nation deserve this.

Wts the difference in being in India or somewhere else. You get the same treatment everywhere. Come to India, you might get thrashed while you travel thru Mumbai. Come to India, you might get killed if you travel thru Gujarat. Come to India, you might be refrained from speaking Hindi in some parts of south. Come to India, you might get burnt alive, if your sub-caste is known, while you travel thru Bihar.

I feel equally scared while travelling thru any part of India, as the Indian students in Australia wud currently be feeling.

I know, I dont need to prove the fact that "Men think about sex all the time", because being a man, or a woman experienced with man everybody knows that its true ;).... and I accept it graciously.

But, but, but... there is a problem here.. atleast from the angle I ammm seeing.

The problem is not what the title of this topic might suggest, because the title is not at all a problem, its rather one of the most passionate and beautiful things to tihnk about.. isnt it?.. Probably after love... or your work... or computers... or a thing that you are more passionate about or might prioritise personally.....

The problem is entirely different.

I am heading back once again to talk about problems with our Indian culture where "sex" is still a taboo and surprisingly this "tabooness" is being carried from genration to generation.

Leave alone the ubercool, metrosexual crowd where bedding each other might not be a very big deal, but wt about the percentage population of India? By percentage population I mean, the middle class, the recently educated, the "no-say-anywhere-not-even-in-personal-life" population. They dnt even have a say in their sex life.

The way sex has always been presented or seeen in our country (khajuraho days... if at all.. are alredy a never coming back history), a guy or a gal is not allowed to bed someone,unless signal "greened" by the society beause our culture (do we have a culture book?) says that marriage is the minimum limit fr that. I dont know wt special privilegese marriage gives. Does maarriage give a special kind of education which no other school can?

I dont understand, wts the problem. Physical requirements are ther, everybody knows that, then wts the problem. Why anybody has to wait till marriage? What will someone loose by if he/she has sex at 18?

There used to be a tradition probably during olden days, where the bedsheet was checked after first night to verify whether the girl "was" virgin or not? Believe it when I say, its not past. I can still show you people of such kind, well educated, working in an MNC, who look for an untouched girl. Bullshit. I mean if you r marrying someone at the age of 28 or 30 then u expect her (is it other way round too?) to have waited till that long. Total bullshit.

There have been lot of talks about sex eduation again and again and the same fails again and again too. We are not ready to open up the facts to kids. Why so? What do we think? Is it possible to hide this? Arent there enuf misleading resources giving all kind of wrong information?

Does unemployment also count in the list of problems because of "tabooness" of sex? I mean guys spend time roaming around girls, mostly for sex, and they dnt get it, they roam around, they dnt get it.. goes on n on.. ;) just a funny side.

Hiding something inside a pandora box, which otherwise is everyone's personal choice never does good. I dont get surprised when I see India's name listed
among fastest growing nations with highest number of AIDS patient. And you also dont get surprised when one more tourist in Goa or American student or a 2 year old baby gets raped.

People are sex hungry everywhere, true fr India too. The difference is, people here are refrained from getting it.

A free society always develops faster and better.

Freida Pinto... if you aren't familiar with this name yet, you definitely have been sleeping since last one year or so.

Man, haven't our ears and eyes paid a lot alredy by listening and reading this name all over, again and again, for no good reason?

I really am getting to know, now, that how our great stars are born (national and international). Our own slumdog babe Freida is a living example. This is just a sarcasm beause am in no mood to defame or derecognise the talent that all the celebs (sacchin tendulkar is also a celeb ;)... ) possess, but is it really the way we wish to recognise a celbrity. The Freida Pinto way? Oh god (this is the first time in my life when I am calling God's name), I suddenly feel like believing in you, from where does people like Freida Pinto achieve such a status?

She might be an undoubted talent. No doubt about the mighty chance of such a surprise. Surprise, because everyone must have seen slumdog by now (if not, go n watch it, its worth). But atleast give her a chance to prove herself. We are not ready to give her any opportunity. Are we so jealous that we are accepting her as a star before she starts off, so that she drops out soon. The way she had been capturing the headlines and magazine covers (no playboy yet, rt?) everywhere, unanimously, she seems to be at a hidden mission of bringing out the truth of media persons, that they all copy from each other. Give them one news and they wont look any where else. Comon man, there are other people too in the same movie. No body was ready to recognize them until oscars happened. Lot of people have been left unnoticed even after oscars.

Recognising someone in such a hurry, without any strong reason is nothing but a disrespect to the recognition that people like Shahrukh Khan, Brad Pitt, George Clooney or Angelina Jolie, Halle Berry (genderly sisters to Freida) have "ACHIEVED".

She barely had anything to do with the movie. She was used in a very good way to keep the movie going (thanks to Danny Boyle), but personally she sersly had nothing in her plate. Other people in the movie, like mahesh manjrekar, the central guy's brother, Irfan khan, and undoubtedly the kids deserve a lot more accolades (which they have been geting, but for all the wrong reasons like, being slapped, being driven out of their home, thanks to Indian media... oooo! I dnt want to talk about media rt nw) but still Freida is the star.

One more thing, I serlsy thought that the beauty lists that keep coming out in one form or other after every two hours or so, had some genuineness but after Slumdog Millionaire's release my thoughts changed. My humble reqqqqquest to any media person, or judge(if reading :)), please keep the list clean.

The most disturbing ever moment for our country is Lok Sabha elections. Being a so called democratic country, elections are necessary but they need not be so loud. No educated and sensible person will vote a moron just because he can move with 100's of bikes and cars behind him and not to mention the deafening loud speakers.

I was sleeping on a saturday morning recently after a hectic long week, when people in number of 100's walked past the road below my house, shouting like aliens, making sound with their vehicles and loud speaker. And know what, I have decided to vote for any other moron , even the recent Pappu bhai from TOI ad,but not for that particular guy, whatever happens. Why the hell shoud I give a damn who he is and what right he has to shout like mad in number of 100's.

These netas are nt at all ready to leave us, nt even on internet. I was recently watching a video on youtube when suddenly our lovable Advani Ji's face appeared from the bottom of the window along with the symbol of his party, lotus. Try listening to Radio sometimes during election, you will listen to more promises than songs and you suddenly start thinking that what will happen to this country if everything becomes true.

Leave alone my personal and gadgety problems, but what about the system crash. Try to go from one city to other by bus during elction, you are not sure when somebody will stop the bus, at what time (may be 2 at nite), where (may be in the midst of a jungle) and why (u can be sure about this, required for election campaign and work). All the Govt offices are deserted well in advance before the election so that the employees can be trained to perform the election duties and also trained to risk their lives in front of Naxals.

This time, elections scaled new heights by not letting IPL happen in India. Its not about the live entertainment that we are going to miss but its about the 100's of crores of rupess that many Indians could have earned as a business and its about the insecure image that we have portrayed al over the world.

It does not finishes here. You never know, you might have to face another election in next 6 months or so. We have faced in past.

I dont understand why netas still think that people will believe in them just because they can show some colurful skies printed in a piece of paper, or because they have a bigger fan following. OOo.. fan following reminds me of newbies like sanjay dutt and old like ones in TN.

Its not impossible to conduct the election in a more organised way without necessarily losing some of the lives.

A more robust election commission with more man power can always conduct election in a better way. And please stop these senseless campaigns. If you got the agenda, just do it and show it. Dont shout it. Votes will automatically fall.

"Robbin Hood is the biggest criminal in the history of world". How does that sound? Cynical, Skeptical, Derogatory etc etc... But its none of them... because its true...

Robin hood is famous only for one reason and that is - he robs the riches to give it to the poors... I mean that is an act of guts and humanity.. isn't it?Hurting one human to please other... though none of them are aware of what they have done. The only mistake made by the rich one is that he worked hard to earn for himself and the only fortune the poor one has got is... wow! he is poor.

We have Robin Hoods in our days also. All those people crying about the underprivileged treatment, unavailability of facilities and need of special treatment to a particular class of society are current age Robin Hoods. No one should have a doubt about that.

Lets keep aside the poor ones for a moment and look through the life of rich.

Not everyone who is rich is a born rich and those who are not, they work hard through out their life to earn a fortune not only for themselves but also their country and the society. They are the biggest additions to a country's economy. They create jobs, they carry other industries along with theirs, they educate people who work for them.

But whats the point of doing all this. At last , everyone is going to cry out that the guy who made it got the opportunity and one who couldn't, didn't get it at all. Lets just leave them alone because one who has got to do it will do it anyways... and nothings gonna matter as a matter of fact. Lets talk about the poor. The poor who wanted to do a lot but couldn't do, the poor who wanted to live a great lifestyle but couldn't live and the poor who wanted to become rich but couldn't make it. Why is it so? Why couldn't he do? May be because he was incapable to do anything or maybe he didn't get the proper environment and opportunities (Dhirubhai ambani probably is the son of jamshed ji tata..thats why he made it...oh but who was tata then.. where did he get the fortune from.. family.. and it kept growing without working??)

Its not true. Because all of us are equally capable of doing a thing or the other. But none of us want the poor to come forward.. so we use a very easy, good looking and lethal weapon named "CHARITY" which can very beautifully break the confidence of any human being in such a way as if it was never there.

Just think about it. What do you exactly do when you do a charity? .Don't you make a person feel that he is need of help? Don't you make a him feel that he is inept? Don't you give him a false feeling that you are there for him which is not true because you wont feed and educate him for lifetime? You do. And this way you totally convert a human being into an animal which doesn't know what to do. One which doesn't know its potential. One which always looks at you with a needy eye and probably makes you feel good by letting you know that you are better than some.

If you really want to do a charity then don't make a child of your own. Instead, adopt one, don't let him know that he is not your child, Bring him up like anyone else, educate him and teach him life. That will be a charity in true sense.

And damn the old Robin Hood and the current ones because they are the one responsible for making some human beings feel that they are in need of help.

This line "The big fat Indian wedding" can have several meanings. Does it mean that people eat a lot and turn fat after each wedding or does it mean a wedding of two utterly butterly Fat person?? We all know that none of these is true. It means a fat amount of money spent over the agreement of two persons to stay together for their entire life and.....,times might have changed a bit today but till very recent days and even now this agreement happens between two person who haven't met each other ever before and surprisingly they agree and spend the money of their lifetime over the same... just to stay with a unknown person for their entire life.

Whatever, its afterall a personal choice that whom u want to spend ur life with.. lets nt get into that. But what about the fatness of our wedding season. When evryone is planning to go slim and green... Indian weddings are growing fatter and fatter. I mean who cares about the people who have loads of money.. they ve gt it.. so they ought to spend it. But what happens to the normal Indian middle class which always try to follow... and ultimately finds itself in deep shit...

Deep shit... sounds too exaggerated a word to criticize such a beautiful occasion....! But Its true! We dnt have figures about how many "Ram" and "Shyam" (couldnt think of better names) drop out of their studies after their sister's marriage. Probably Ram drops out when first sister gets married and shyam drops out at the seocnd.

Whats the point of spending an amount which u cant afford thru ur lifetime (done one mistake alredy by not being enuf to afford the fatness... commiting second by trying to afford when u cant).

We boast our thoughts about gender equality... but hw could we convince a father to agree on gender equality who knows that he is earning only for one reason i.e. he needs to spend an amount that is more than wt he earns thru his lifetime, if he got a daughter in his home.

I dont want to talk about old India cos I dnt knw hw exactly it was... giving and accepting dowry during those times might have been a status symbol.. and thats why parents are really interested... may be...but hw about the new gen India... the educated one... It's quite an irony... In some states, the more u r educated, the fatter amount u get as a dowry... Try negotiating for a guy who has competed in UPSC or IIT...nd u ll find that they get dowry as big as half of their lifetime salary...nd wow.. they accept it gracefully without any regret... Such people should be thrown out of their organisations not to teach a lesson to them but to those guys who paid dowry just in the name of their degree or job.

I dont need to mention the number of gals burnt evry year in the name of dowry... aah this topic is rusted now.